I’m
a firm believer that your course in life can change instantaneously
depending upon which decisions you're making, good or bad.
When I sought the quiet time to reflect on what would I thank Mr.
Adamson for the most, I came to the realization that I wanted to thank
him for the decisions he made solely for me. I know he made
more monumental decisions in his lifetime but these are what sent my
life down it's path...
Before
I ever knew or heard his name he was making a decision for me that
impacted the rest of my life. When Vine
Street Children's Home contacted Mr. Adamson about taking the four Haven
children (asking if he had enough room), his first decision affecting my life was to
answer, “Yes”. We four
Haven children arrived at Bonny Oaks in August 1959, I was 8 years old.
I remember sitting on the couch in his office with my two brothers (7 and 10) and one
sister (13), in awe, almost scared, of such a strict looking
man who was sitting behind that big desk and talking so fast.
Throughout
the next seven years, Mr. Adamson made lots of decision too - enough to
substantiate books on all of us I'm sure. But, the ones that I
feel impacted me most were church, school, friends, sponsors. He decided I would still attend church at
Brainerd Baptist, where I had just been baptized when at Vine Street.
He chose my schools
where I learned, played, studied hard. He even “campused” me when a grade
fell too low - yes, grounded until that grade came back up. It
made me learn I had to work hard to do well, there were no shortcuts in making
educated decisions whether that "education" came from life
experiences or the classroom. He chose my
sponsors - and I always felt I got the best ones, they gave me exposure
to family life in their homes. He chose my "friends"
which were the other Bonny Oaks kids and I looked at every one of them
as such. Peer pressure is strong in children and if there was a
really bad apple amongst his crop they were quickly rooted out by Mr.
Adamson - he knew we weren't delinquents or criminals, just children
that needed the right environment for a chance to grow up to be
well-adjusted adults. When I was 16 he chose my sister as
my guardian and that's when I had to leave Bonny Oaks and Chattanooga
for Florida.
But
that was Mr. Adamson’s calling from God and that was his job – to
make decisions for us. It is no wonder that some look to Mr.
Adamson as the only Father figure they ever had - just as others from
previous and future generations hopefully felt the same about their
Superintendents.
Today,
for Mr. Adamson’s birthday, I want to say “Thank You!” for making
the decisions that my parents weren’t around nor capable enough to
make. Those decisions made
me the person I am today. Those decisions guided me in raising my
own family and taught me how to make my kids decisions for them when
they needed me to make them.
I
am glad God
made the decision to set Mr. Adamson's course down a path that would prepare him to be the Superintendent of Bonny
Oaks. There's no doubt that God knew we (me, my brothers, sister and all the
other hundreds of Bonny Oaks children) were going to be coming into this world and we were going
to need someone to make those early foundation decisions for
us.
Thank
You, Mr. Adamson, Happy Birthday!